The therapist develops a trusting relationship with the child. She participates in activities and play. She creates a safe environment in which the child can get in touch with who he is, what he is feeling, thinking, wishing and dreaming. She does not judge or interpret, but rather reflects on what she sees and experiences with the child. She believes in the child's own ability to find a balance in his life, therefore she helps him to become aware of what he is doing and feeling to enable him to make changes if he wishes to do so.
Sometimes she makes suggestions, but the responsibility for accepting and applying these suggestions rests on the child. She always gives the child choices, because children cannot accept responsibility for something they did not choose themselves.